The Minivan and My Pride

Isn’t it funny how certain things can be a hang-up? For me (one of them!) is owning a minivan. We always knew when we started another adoption that we’d have to buy another car. And this has been a point of discussion for several years. Well, not so much a discussion because J always knew where he stood on the issue and so I just sought to find other options – before giving in knowing that he was right.

All along, I was hoping that some great new car would come out that wouldn’t be SUCH a gas guzzler as a SUV and have all the room of a minivan.

Unfortunately, I have yet to find one.

So about two weeks ago we found this ad for a Honda Odyssey that was for sale in NC. We drove the 2 1/2 hours to test it out. The kids loved it and wanted to buy it on the spot. J thinks it is a great deal with everything we’d ever look for in a new vehicle. And for a minivan, it seems like a good one.


But that pride is coming up from the depths.

“I have to drive one of those?”


It has been a week or so and I am pushing back on that pride. Trying to let go of my own silly desires. It reminds me of an Andrew Peterson song, “I am a family man/ I traded in my mustang for a minivan/ This is not what I was headed for when I began/ This was not my plan/ I am a family man.” (Only 1. I am not a man and 2. We don’t  have a mustang.) Regardless, the song goes on to say, “But everything I had to lose/Came back a thousand times in you/ And you fill me up with love…

Our goal isn’t to have everything WE want here on earth. Often times, what we want is actually not what is best for us anyway. Our desire to bring in another soul who needs a forever family is so much greater than my own pride. Everything I lose here does come back multiplied in the gift of children and life.

So here it goes…

tomorrow, we’ll be the owners of…

a minivan.

Gulp. :)


PS-for a (bit cheesy) version of Andrew Peterson’s Family Man:


  1. Kerry
    May 8, 2011

    wait until you have to confess that you love it and wish you would have gotten one sooner :) . and after driving one for 12 years, we just bought our second one.

  2. Addy
    May 8, 2011


  3. Paula S
    May 8, 2011

    Wow! It’s really not that bad. Honestly. Minivans are great! H, you are hilarious.

  4. April
    May 8, 2011

    I must say, i’m a little jealous. It would be so nice to have all that room!! I think you will like it in the end!

  5. Jen Hebb
    May 9, 2011

    Why is it that in most families the husband wants to buy the wife a minivan and the wife wants an SUV? I have come to think I must be the ONLY mom who had to BEG my husband for a minivan. He (just like you) wanted an SUV with the room and gas mileage of a minivan. Ya-he came to the same conclusion….the don’t make one.
    Finally, after 6 months of 3 carseats packed SO tightly in our Subaru…..he bought me one and it is the best purchase ever!
    Even he says all the time…wow, why didn’t we get one of these sooner :) I hope you enjoy your minivan!

  6. Lacey
    May 9, 2011

    I don’t have any clever, wise or pithy words for you.

    I am still in the prideful anti-van camp with you (and my husband feels as yours does) and I am still pumping $80 in the tank of our Suburban each time I fill it up.

    So at least you can think about how much lower your gas prices are than mine – right?

  7. MMOM
    May 9, 2011

    When you go to park, look for a drive thru. then you won’t have to back the thing up! You will find a way. You are too strong not to do so. xoxooxoxox

  8. apryl
    Jun 22, 2011

    I wish we could fit into a mini-van! I’ve been searching and searching…for something that isn’t a 12 passenger van! Just wait, perhaps one day the mini-van will be a distant memory and you’ll have upgraded like me. Oh, how I wish I were in a Honda Odyssey!

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